A Definition and Explanation

March 24, 2009

The Oreo Experience or: A Total Whitey in a Black Chick’s Body

Oreo – Slang: Black on the outside….white on the inside.

My grandparents have really cool recessive genes for black people. They have this rich, dark skin with bright blue eyes.

I also have an interesting recessive gene for black people: the one that makes me love Renaissance Fairs, Kristen Chenowith and dressage competitions.

This blog is dedicated to that existence.


How to Say Uncomfortable Things

November 23, 2015

Look, we all have to say or hear things that are uncomfortable sometimes.

A doctor might have to look someone in the eye and say that there’s nothing to be done.

A supervisor might have to look someone in the eye and tell them that they’ve been made redundant.

A partner might need to look their lover in the eye and say “I love you.”

The point is,  life can get real awkward real fast.

And right now, people are saying uncomfortable things all over the place.

Whether it’s refugees saying “please remember that we’re human beings,” or college students saying “please let us be treated fairly,” or liberals saying “please, let’s not bring back the ideals that the Nazi party espoused,” conversations are getting weird.

Now sure, it’s important that people be able to look someone in the eye and say “Hey, I think what you’re saying is going to lead to a lot of people being treated unfairly.” But ohmygod, no need to embarrass yourself and everyone around you by just being all weird and honest about it.

So the following is a handy guide to help you figure out how to say all those icky truths in a way that’s more palatable to your peers. If you’re having a hard time saying what you want without forcing everyone to get defensive defending their indefensible positions, try getting it off your chest:

Through Interpretive Dance

You remember that Chandelier video. What on earth was happening? Maybe that nude tween was saying: “Hello and I hope you’re having a good time.” Or maybe she was saying “In the event of an emergency, all minorities will be moved to the back of the aircraft.” Who knows? That’s the beauty of unclear artistic expression. You can say whatever you want and no one can really get upset because they have no idea what’s going on. You get some exercise and stretching in and they get to walk away assuming that you’re on the same page…or that you’re weird enough that they don’t really want to continue talking to you anyway. Win win!


Over Drinks

Everything’s easier to take after your third Manhattan. So just get in there.


Via Haiku

Hard to write these things
Finally figured it out
But everyone is dead now

With a relaxing meter and few word to work with, you run little risk of upsetting someone with a politically charged short poem. Plus, you’ll spend more time trying to craft this thing than you do trying to find new abbreviations to make your latest Tweet fit into 140 characters. By the time you’ve figured out how to say what you want to say, everyone will have forgotten what you’re talking about and will be on to new issues anyway.


With The Help of a Carrier Pigeon

After you’ve tied your message to its cute little legs, you’ll be so caught up thinking about how you can turn this little gal’s adventures into a charming Pixar film that you’ll forget all about your very salient point.


To the Tune of $80+/hr

As much as we all love TED talks, there are some boring ones, but poll those audiences and they’ll say it changed their lives! All these rallies where political candidates say crazy things? People pay big bucks to get a seat at one of those tables and then they clap politely and pretend like everything’s cool. So just start charging top dollar for your opinion and you’ll find you have a lot more fans.



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Because, what’s more important, really? Self expression or self preservation. Remember, that which does not kill us gets us invited to better parties.



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What Will Happen When You Hire a Diverse Staff (a primer for Matt Damon)

September 16, 2015

The Martian, Good Will Hunting caused quite a stir this week on an episode of Project Greenlight. The incident in question occurred when white Damon interrupted Effie Brown, a prolific producer who also happens to be black, as she was suggesting that diversity was important.

Truly, how dare she try to blacktalk during this very generous piece of whitesplaining.

Etiquette always states that you do not blacktalk during a whitesplain.

Brown was suggesting to a roundtable of other people whose faces you’d recognize that they should consider considering that a diverse filmmaker would be well-equipped to handle direction of a a script where the only person of color seen on screen is a black prostitute who gets slapped by her white pimp, lest the finished product have some uncomfortable undertones.

Jason Bourne interrupted Brown and said that simply wasn’t necessary. Brown tried to interject, but Ocean’s 10th interrupted again and said that it was absolutely not necessary to cast a diverse director because:

“When we talk about diversity, you do it in the casting of the film, not the casting of the show,” he said, intimating that having one person of color in an entire film is plenty, thank you very much. And that since that role has been filled, it really doesn’t make any sense to have any people of color working anywhere else on set.

Later, in a talking head segment, Private Ryan said directors should be based on merit and that “all other” considerations should be taken out of it.

The implication being that diverse directors cannot stand on their merit and that “other” considerations must be considered in order to make a diverse candidate viable.

And The Uncredited Baseball Fan at Fenway Park could not be more right.

Because when you choose a diverse director, you really are asking for trouble. Here’s what will likely happen if you pick a not white to direct your movie.

  • The chosen director will express thanks and gratitude for the opportunity.
  • The chosen director (TCD) will plan, schedule, research and consider
  • Someone will bring Tom Ripley a coffee
  • A PA will start to re-consider their life choices
  • A producer’s child will have their resume fast-tracked and be well on their way to becoming a VP
  • TCD will work with the AD to try and make their day
  • An intern will make some copies
  • Everyone will get really excited about crafty, no matter what they’re serving
  • Many takes will go well, some will end up in the blooper reel
  • Some fan will give out and everyone will get all hot and cranky
  • This pattern will repeat itself for a few days until everything is in the can
  • Editors will work many nights and weekends to cut the piece together
  • Executives will weigh in
  • The PA will have given up and resigned themselves to a life less glamorous, but no less lived
  • An unnecessarily expensive wrap party will be planned
  • Oh, and the movie will be ruined. Obviously.

I mean, you can’t, as Rannulph Junuh articulated, just hire diverse directors willy nilly or who knows what will happen. Just look at these examples of horrible mistakes made by directors of color.

Selma, Ava DuVernay

Left to right: David Oyelowo plays Martin Luther King, Jr. and Carmen Ejogo plays Coretta Scott King in SELMA, from Paramount Pictures and Pathé.

You call that tying a tie?? A real tie tyer wouldn’t let themselves be groped during this very important bit of work. There’s no way you can tie a proper Eldridge knot with that kind of distraction…What?! She was having her tie a simple windsor?! Fail.
F. Gary Gray, The Italian Job


Oh for fucks’ sake. When you are done with your meal, you don’t put your fork on its side like a goddamned animal. You put it with tines facing down!!! This movie, ruined.

King Arthur, Antoine Fuqua


Hello?!?!? We’re on a horse, that means our heels go DOWN guy in the back!! If you can’t afford to get your crew some calf-stretching exercises so that they don’t look like absolute asstoots on film, then you’re obviously an Affirmative Action hire who has no business working in this business.

Thank you, Guy Who Played Owen on Will and Grace That Time for holding us to some g-damned standards.



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I (Might Actually) Stand With Kim Davis

September 4, 2015
Kim Davis: Hero, a handy hashtag...or something more??

Kim Davis: Hero, a handy hashtag…or something more??

Everyone is so up in arms about Kentucky Clerk Kim Davis and her refusal to perform a very important function of her job as a County Clerk. Davis has refused to issue marriage licenses to same-sex couples, citing her religious beliefs. Gay couples, she says, are unbiblical, and supporting them (read: following the law by giving them the marriage certificate they are legally entitled to) would cause her to violate her religion. And because we have freedom of religion in this country, she posits, she should not be legally compelled to violate her beliefs…even if that means that she gets to violate the legal rights of tax-paying citizens of the county she is legally obligated to serve.

People are calling her a bigot. They’re saying she’s prejudiced. They’re saying that we really need to honor the separation of church and state. They’re happy that she’s in jail.

But I think people are looking at this all wrong.



Let’s take a gander at some facts:

  • Kim Davis cannot keep a man. She’s been married 4 times.
  • She’s not married to her baby daddy.
  • She doesn’t want to work.
  • She has a record.
  • She’s getting a paycheck from the government despite not wanting to work.

Based on these behaviors, Kim Davis is basically a black person. Certainly an RBP. And she’s managed to become a right-wing hero. This could change everything.

Here’s what I’m thinking:

Kim Davis isn’t a white anti-gay government official. She’s just some black dude performance artist in whiteface.

Well played, anonymous blacktivist. Well played indeed.

If it were within the rules to be seen in the same room together, I’d come by and say congratulations.


If the right starts applauding RBP behavior, what’s next in this new world order? Cornrows at the office? Driveby Fridays? What do you think? Let us know in the comments!


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Is There Room For Both of Us?

August 11, 2015

You guys! I don’t know what kind of Affirmative Action shitshow is going on right now, but there is a whole ‘nother black person in my department!



I know!


It’s like they’re trying to stress me out.


Okay, I appreciate the empathy, but can we get back to me now?


Thank you

The worst part is, she’s… really nice. And kind of funny. And super sweet. And has this amazing breakfast taco recipe that sounds amazing and she totally invited me over to try it. And–

What? Oh! Hey Tiana! What’s this?? Ohmygod, thank you!

Holyshit, she brought me coffee. She brought me coffee just because.

It’s like she doesn’t know the rules at all.

This is terrible news. Partly just because I kind of want to hang out with her sometimes and that’s just not okay. Two or more of us together and soon we’ll start talking about that amazingly heartbreaking This American Life from a couple of weeks ago about how truly segregated schools still are and then we’re basically a gang.

But it mainly sucks because now that she’s here, how am I supposed to stand out at the office?!

When I was the only one of me, I was special and unique and yes that led to some really annoying questions, but it was all because they noticed me. I was being noticed.

Now that I’m just a part of a crowd, how will I stand out?

I’ll have to…actually be really good at my job or something. I’ll have to contribute something other than adorable quips. I’ll have to stop making my resume a liar and learn Excel.

Thanks, Obama.



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It’s Hard To Pick Just One Thing…

July 29, 2015

…But I think what I like most about racially motivated police violence is how inspiring it is.

I’m not saying there aren’t good cops. I am saying that fully half my facebook feed these days is full of images of cops not being good cops.

And it’s just so inspiring.

Every time I see one of these images or videos or articles, I think “Wow! The world needs more empathy. Something needs to change. I need to contribute to change!”

And that’s where some people say that my thinking goes off the rails.

Because my next thought is always:

“So here’s what I’m gonna do. One, I’m gonna dig up that pilot script I stopped working on 5 years ago. Two, I’m gonna join a writers group and get that third act under control. Next, I’m gonna shop it around town for a few seasons. Then, I’m gonna get it picked up by a cable network. Five: gonna get a good lawyer so I can stay on as show-runner and have 2 producer credits. Six, I’m gonna get that bitch into syndication. And finally when those sweet sweet rerun dollars start rolling in, I’m gonna start a charity.”


It's a pretty good plan.

It’s a pretty good plan.


My friends point out to me that there’s a children’s hospital, a Planned Parenthood, a Habitat For Humanity, and a kids’ after school program walking distance from my house.

Look, sure, those would be great things to get involved with. And some people are reallllly good at things like getting up and out of the house in the morning, interacting with other people in an empathetic way, and managing their time so that they can make important events.

Some of us are ideas people.

So look for my charity circa 2045. It’s gonna be life changing. You can all be on the board.

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Let’s Rethink This

June 18, 2015

Look, everyone, I know, it’s tempting.

You see a grown man putting his knees into a nearly naked child’s back or a fully adult human putting pepper spray into a child’s mouth, and you want to be like, “hey, that’s kinda fucked up.”

Resist that thought.

C'mon, you can do it

C’mon, you can do it


I know you can do it.

I know you can do it.

You might think “hey, I was camp counselor slash RA once when I was but a teenager and I broke up fights and got people out of restricted areas without putting them in handcuffs.”

Resist that thought.

You might think, “you know what, teenagers shouldn’t talk back to adults, that’s rude. But they are teenagers and the punishment for being mouthy might be to say…take their phone away for a day, not give them bruises on their spine or a police record for life.”

Resist that thought.

This is not the time to think about things like systemic injustice or the unnecessary militarization of our police forces or how British police don’t even have guns and they aren’t all dead. This is not the time to think about how “things” should change.

This is the time to think about how you can change.

This is the time to RE-BRAND.


Yes! It’s true!

When something goes wrong at a company, they don’t fold, they get a new logo and start again like nothing’s wrong.

You’d think that with the country’s obsession with battling obesity, that Super Size Me antagonist McDonald’s would have gone the way of the dodo. But nope. They stuck some salads on their menu and brand themselves as a healthy dining option.

Microsoft got themselves some fancy looking versions of Apple Stores. Southwest Airlines got that stupid on-the-nose picture of an airplane off their logo. Monster got that fun flowy flag. Even Target managed to give itself a good old-fashioned frenzied stampede when it proved it could be a go-to place for high (?) fashion with its Lily Pulitzer line.



And that’s what we need to do with police violence…I’m sorry with police Moments.

Sure, on the surface, it looks like adults are beating up on kids. But you know what, hipsters pay good money for older adults to put bruises on their body. It’s called Thai Massage.

And speaking of spicy food. It’s not pepper spray so much as it is a free sample from Hoy-Ka Noodle House. Yum-o!

See, doesn’t that feel better? Thinking about unnecessary force against clearly unarmed people in these new terms is almost as comforting as getting stretched out by Intira Juntasa at Wilsire Aroma Spa. So take your tragedy of choice, put a spin on it and let’s get back to smiling.


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We’re All Terrible People

June 8, 2015

…or at least giant hypocrites.

The last few weeks of social media have been interesting.

I have conservative friends who would punish their daughters for kissing a boy before she’s engaged stand up for Josh Duggar and say that him touching his sisters in their private parts while they sleep is “normal” behavior.

I have liberal friends who stand up for prison reform, and who demand that offenders who commit actual crimes against human people be given treatment instead of punishment for their violent crimes call for the guy who taped the dog’s mouth shut to be flayed alive.

Settle down. No one's talking to you right now, Ramsay.

Settle down. No one’s talking to you right now, Ramsay.


I have friends who support their right to bear firearms, but do not support the right of people being unjustly arrested to fight back against cops without having to fear for their lives.

I have friends who will talk climate change all day long, but who swear by their Keurig cups.

For real, though I don't know how I survived all these years without these.

For real, though I don’t know how I survived all these years without these.

I have empathetic friends who swear off Game of Thrones because women get brutalized, but who weren’t troubled at all by the moments where men get gutted, burned alive, and tortured.

Even me. I’ve worked so hard at being an Oreo, but thanks to the recommendation of a few friends, I kind of want to watch Empire.

I’m not sure what to do about any of us. Except maybe stop with the facebook. But if you do see me watching Empire, go ahead and Game of Thrones me.

What about you? What beliefs of yours make no sense? Let us know in the comments so we can celebrate what nutty weirdos we all are.



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