What is The Oreo Experience
Oreo – Slang: Disparaging and Offensive. a black person who is regarded as having adopted the attitudes, values, and behavior thought to be characteristic of middle-class white society, often at the expense of his or her own heritage.
My grandparents have really cool recessive genes for black people. They have this rich, dark skin with bright blue eyes.
I also have an interesting gene for black people: the one that makes me love Renaissance Faires, A Prairie Home Companion, kayaking, my Company soundtrack and Restoration Hardware.
This blog is dedicated to the joys, confusion, stares, opportunities and awkwardness that that brings.
Would you ever date a guy who is nonwhite AND nonoreo? I’ve always wanted to date a white woman but I don’t want to get flack from the sistas and society as a whole. It sounds like you could offer the best of both worlds…as long as you could keep your mouth shut when we are around black folks. What do you say we hook up sometime?
Peace
“Jamal”
Well, according to the rules, Oreos are unfortunatley not allowed to date RBP. Though the fact that you want to go interracial does show that you have promise!
I’ll see who I can recommend for you.
Your site is funny! You have a great sense of humor, and you can get away with saying things a white guy like myself couldn’t.
On top of that, you’re cute enough to get pretty much any guy you choose, so be picky.
Take care and good luck!
I had no idea what to expect from the name of this blog.
I LOVE it! Keep on doing what you do…I’ll be reading…
Love it! Funny yet sensible and so so real. I’m linking you on my pages that I like – if that’s okay
I’ve not come across the term Oreo before – must tell my son, because he describes one of his friends as ‘the whitest black guy ever’.
I am mixed race (so is my son, obviously) but I my skin is really pale (and turning paler, due to a skin condition). However, the hairs on the back of my neck rise at regular intervals – like whenever I hear remarks about ‘foreigners’ (etc etc).
I love the humor of your blog and find myself giggling out loud when I read it. You know the saying goes there’s a little truth behind every joke; you highlight that so well!
Not an Oreo myself, but I enjoy what I’ve read in the blog. Thanks for keeping me informed
And by the way, love of Renaissance Faires is not to be helped, you either do, or you violently don’t, there is very little choice in the matter, I’ve found. If you ever want to commission a costume, shoot me an email and we’ll talk. http://www.facebook.com/#!/photo.php?pid=434032&id=1152924264
Keep up the hysterical posts!
Wow. Interesting.
You should really do stand up you are very funny. And you are very pretty. You really crack me up, you got skills
I don’t know if your just an act or if that is your real disposition, but I must say what you do is funny. I loved your description of your interaction with what I assume is suburban white males. I must admit I’m a rural white male who is listening to Ricky Skaggs and Kentucky Thunder while writing this response he has been on Prairie Home Companion by the way. So, if this is you I like the fact you take ownership of the word Like Jeff Foxworthy with the word Redneck or Richard Pryor with the word Nigger. I have to admit being a white male it is hard to write that last word in the previous sentence without feeling I need to edit it.
Wait, are you saying that you’ve been on PHC??? Jealous!!
And yup…this is me.
Thanks for reading and writing!
Is this an act? To be honest with you just because you speak well, listen to classical music (or something close to it), enjoy kayaking which is actually fun for real, receive hostility from hood brothas who absolutely NEVER EVER been exposed to any other culture or lifestyle outside the hood, DOES NOT MAKE YOU AN OREO.
You act pretty damn white BUT there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with that. Believe me I live in atlanta and I cannot understand what people from here say when I go to restaraunts and other places.
I speak proper and I receive all kinds of hell from brothas but at the same time they respect it too.
I think you could date a brotha but the right one has not stepped to you properly yet.
Your kinda cute for real but the only thing that could hurt you is you obviously have a set of strict and unrealistic rules that the guy must meet.
Trust me there are many brothas who do not like the “ghetto attitude and demeanor” coming from a female, that is not attractive at all..
Acting that way is celebrating ignorance and I personally cannot stomach it (Like I said I live in atlanta and they think that is cute here and it is NOT)
this is a very unusual site but kinda of different.
very interesting….
Hi
Would it be fair of me to say that you have issues with the color of your own skin? The concept of an ‘oreo’ doesn’t strike me as an overly new concept, but you yourself do. You seem to be glorifying this idea of the ‘oreo’ – (black on the outside white on the inside stereotype) – a black person who is regarded as having adopted the attitudes, values, and behavior thought to be characteristic of middle-class white society’. The way I see it; you’re a unique individual like everyone else. Aren’t you just limiting yourself by defining yourself as an oreo?
Isn’t this just a cry out for Love? If so, you’re loved. Forgive me for not being easily humored by your satirical videos and comments.
Answering this question might indeed defeat the point of having this blog, but here it goes… Is your severe caricature of “oreos” intended to condemn or mock them, or is this who you consider yourself to really be? It’s pretty funny if you take it to be social satire, but if you take it literally, it appears to mock itself. This question is coming from a white male who has laughed at the whole site.
There’s a difference between being cultured, and being an oreo. As a black woman with a white mother, I find the term ‘oreo’ to be as disturbing as ‘n*gger’, cracker’, and other derogatives that limit our many beautiful cultures until there’s nothing left but ugly stereotypes. I see you as a beautifully cultured person, but I find some of your comedy to be funny and truthful (Dave Chappelle, Paul Mooney, Richard Pryor like), and some of it to be
very limiting and closed-minded ()
There’s a difference between being cultured, and being an oreo. As a black woman withh a white mother, I find the term ‘oreo’ to be as disturbing as ‘n*gger’, cracker’, and other derogatives that limit our many beautiful cultures until there’s nothing left but ugly stereotypes. I see you as a beautifully cultured person, but I find some of your comedy to be funny and truthful (Dave Chappelle, Paul Mooney, Richard Pryor like), and some of it to be
very limiting and closed-minded ()
You are so unique to me and I really like you for who you are.You made me laugh so many times. That’s kinda strange to me because typically I don’t care for women that are oreo’s but I completely get you. Plus I am certain that I could really rock your world. A woman as breath taking as you could use a strong black man like me to have by your side. I guess the only problem would be my wife. lol
Don’t let your wife know you called her a “problem”
Thank you for coming by and reading! Don’t be a stranger!
Argos….For a dog name….
Link
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Argos_%28dog%29
BTW….Funny stuff….Keep it up!
Goddess! I hope you don’t mind, I’ve taken the liberty of building a shrine to you in my garden, where I can worship your awesomeness. I am working on a collage portrait of you, using only my back issues of “Town and Country”. I live for the day that I can sacrifice my dinner jacket to a puddle in the street for the sake of shoes.
Your unworthy servant,
~Dave
I think your site is funny and refreshingly different. Moreover, from the few posts I’ve read so far you definitely challenge me to think about some of my own personal concepts of what exactly defines ‘blackness’.
However, you mean to tell me you’ve never listened to A Tribe Called Quest or Sarah Vaughan or maybe some Coltrane or Dizzy Gillespie even (seriously, what self-respecting oreo doesn’t listen to Jazz?!) How about Sylvia Striplin or a little Rick James??? Prince? Chappelle’s Show? The Boondocks? Grand Theft Auto San Andreas even?
I guess my point is I’m not sure if you are defining ‘whiteness’ as an abscence for the appreciation of all things black or if you are deliberately (as a form of irony, perhaps) overlooking the fact that some of the best stuff out there just happens to have been produced by blacks.
Or do you really just not know what’s up?
Haha! You’d be surprised! I didn’t hear to Coltraine for the first time until I was in my late 20s. I know Sarah Vaughn because I karaoke to Whatever Lola Wants, but that’s it. I’m a nerd and geek who was raised by a nerd and a geek.
Those who are bereft of critical thinking skills may find your blog a validation of the antiquated yet always employed concept of ‘white supremacy’. If your aim is to show that so-called “Blacks” do not come in a one-size fits all category-then job well done!!
I also spent my formative years (albeit centuries ago) in an all White area and have been labeled an ‘oreo’ as well; however, I did not and do not embrace the term as it fuels the erroneous behavioral and intellectual concepts of what certain groups of people should or should not do/feel/behave and it allows those who have never been marginilized based on phenotype to continue to drink from the poisonous wells of stereotypes and racism.
Just be mindful young warrior-be mindful.
Wow. . .great site. I love everything you have to say. Looking for the new videos soon. BTW. . .you’re beautiful (inside and out)
First, let me say that you are an extremely talented entertainer. I think folk in our position need to laugh to keep from crying about our black heritage that seems to mainly embrace foolishness. Second, as a black man, I find you very attractive as most men of other ethnic persuasions and I too find myself typically dating non-black women due to my seemingly white oriented activities. I was raised by parents who were 2nd generation college grads…. I lived on my family’s ancestral rural land (30 minutes outside of DC)….attended private school and graduated from a “baby ivy” college. My siblings also went to Wellesley and MIT, so we are regarded as BAP’s without consciously trying. I use to get offended by this characterization but now I just embrace it and actually poke fun at the situation (not as brilliantly as you though). Thirdly, if you ever find yourself in Chocolate City (DC) or Yallie Town (New Haven, Ct), this fellow OREO would love to see a show with ya.
I accidentally discovered your videos last night while following a Malcolm X thread on youtube, and I haven’t been able to stop thinking about you since. Not just because you’re cute – although that certainly is a factor – but also because you bring a very uncomfortable topic to the surface, and you do it with great, past the edge, humor. I’m not sure if I should encourage you or yell ‘Duck!’ I mean damn girl you went ahead and took a blow torch to the envelope. What a mind.
When I was in high school as a male Oreo white boys and black girls would get angry when a white girl would sit with me @ lunch…Black boys would start freakin out when I would talk to black girls…and of course I was accused of acting white by some of the black guys that clearly had a problem with white people and anyone that acted white…
All I can say is unless you are self employed or have a trust fund “acting black” is not a good idea….
My motto is that if your not paying me or your not @ least 50% as fine as Ms.Oreowriter your opinion means nothing and you should install a baseball bat in an area that has very limited sunlight…..
Thank You & have a wonderful evening
is this real or a big joke?
ARE SERIOUS OR A COMEDIAN?
Nothing wrong with bein a nerd or a geek ladies and gentlemen… Nerdy/geeky guys often end up with the more desirable women because they have better jobs and own homes and women who are not considered “hott” are usually more intelligent…. Better lovers…. And have more to bring to the table such as the ability to earn income and have an interesting conversation…
Your AWESOME! Crack me up humorous and easy on the eyes! If you truly are xenophobic…I envy your fortunate selection!
Happy Holidays and many THANKS!
Great stuff. Love what you’re doing and trying to do (the ‘lemma’ joke cracked me up). Takes some balls, and talent.
If you fancy checking out some naughty, quality novels and nonf-ction-writing about race, culture etc from a UK perspective, I humbly recommend http://www.theblessedmonkey.com!
Sois sage,
Thanks to the Huffington Post, I stumble to your blog!
I’ve enjoy my visit and will continue to visit to indulge el oreo que todos llevamos dentro (the inner oreo that everyone has)
Saludos,
JC
I really enjoy your video blogs and see your genius in each one. You truly have a great personality thats makes you captivating and a joy to listen to as well. I will try and stay update with your blogs and check your website often to see how things are going. Plus I always wanted to date a woman similiar to you.
You are very captivating. Not only are you a major league beauty, but you have a witty and intelligent personality. You truly should have a bf to take you on adventures with him and experience life in a new way.
Fantastic wit – thanks for making me chuckle this am – I could really use some of that going through these job orders. Its alarmingly clear that some people just won’t get past colour… therefore, I think collectively as a group we all need to just pick one colour and go for that. Maybe “#B6FF00″ that would be interesting as hell! Then maybe we can just hate for the simple fact some people are douchebags.
(yes, go now and check that colour)
You are welcome. It is a shame that people just won’t get past the skin color issues. But when a hottie like you has to be out there, then who cares about race or ignorance. You completely crack me up and that is always a plus in my book.
You crack me up! Can’t get into the musicals though – I have nothing against them, I am just more of a Dizzy Gillespie Be Bop type
You are adorable! I just watched your video about why you don’t date black guys. I am almost the guy you are looking for at the end of the video:
-white, obviously;
-a practicing CPA;
-I drive a Mustang (WAY better than a Sebring);
-I could be convinced to take up swing dancing for you
OK, alot of people like your sense of humor and being open about being so-called “oreo”. I feel hurt by the topic “Why I don’t date black men” and your overall outlook on yourself and your people. It’s your preference who you date or hangout with. However, don’t be elitist towards your own, excuse me, you don’t accept your own nationality. Don’t be elitist against African-Americans. I understand you didn’t grow up around alot of us (some white folks call us “you people” you might do the same). You can hang around us I promise you that no more chocolate is going to rub off on you. Let’s even exchange music you can give me some Brahms or Tchaikovsky or different eras of so-called classical music. And I can give you some Coltrane, Miles Davis, some Motown sound, Parliament-Funkadelic, Slick Rick, the Roots, Mos Def. Let you be you but when you need that support in your darkest hour. Just come to the dark people who are African-Americans for help because you will.
When the chips are down, blood is blood. And we stand by those who need us.
That being said, she’s still fucking hilarious. I mean the sunscreen skit??!? LMMFAO!¡!
Totally. And I don’t mind making a swirl. Especially with whipped cream, chunks of bananas, cherries, and mixed crushed nuts.
So, I’m still not certain if I’m in love with you or lament your very existence. Either way, your witty, acerbic, and often insightful “racism” incites me to respond, both here and via video response. Thrrefore, you have changed the world, and should be very proudSo know that it’s on its way. But I’m not gonna tell you when it’s coming… Keep up the great work. Also, you’d do well to delve into the beauty of your heritage; then you might realize a greater truth than can be shown by skin color…
I just come across your videos and I Googled your blog, keep up the good work. as you can tell your not alone.
I think the Oreo Experience should be more. It should become a movement! A movement to bring back some credibility to a cultural that has fought and struggle to be recognizes as a people of contribution, self worth and pride. We need our dignity back and we can’t get it back unless we come together as a people and fix what’s wrong. We can’t expect others to respect and take us serious as a people, if we can’t do the same for ourselves.
Well this is different… I’m not sure whether I should be amused, offended or sad so I’ll err on the side of caution and stick with my usual; curious but indifferent.
Everyone seems so eager to claim a cultural identity and I just don’t see the relevance in it. I am a mix of black, native American and ‘something else’ though I am predominantly black in physical appearance. I speak/write well enough to reach common ground anyone I meet regardless of race, social status, etc. However, I do not claim any specific cultural identity since I have no non-physical traits that make me similar to any one race or culture.
I originally saw oreowriter on youtube (and possibly on TV). She’s quite attractive but I find her position and this site to be quite ironic as I (a so called black man) no longer ‘actively’ seek black women for romance due to a commonly recurring personality mismatch. What is even more ironic is that this young lady could have none of the traits that I avoid in women of her (and my) ethnic background, yet have nearly all the traits I avoid in women of her preferred cultural alignment.
Everyone loves to obsess over how black, white, etc. they are then draw false assumptions with regard to everyone else they see without hearing the whole story. A wise man (who would have just had a birthday yesterday) once said that he would prefer that we are all judged by the content of our character than by the color of our skin.
My question; What if a person does not care about such trivial things? Where does one turn when he/she has no cultural identity to claim?
There’s one for you; My girlfriend is black I’m white. She keeps her ‘roots’ , I keep mine. Neither of us want to be a different color as she is a proud black woman and not ‘self hating’. We just happened to meet and fall in love. Oh, I have a simple blue collar job and she has a very successful career, so as many stereo types would say it’s not because of my $ (or lack of) why she went for me. It does happen in life, especially in a multi-cultural city like Seattle. Oh, one more thing
.. I’m a conservative republican. No joke lol. Many of my friends, including myself hunt, fish etc. (Typical white guy stuff). It’s a great when despite all differences, and odds, two can come together and love each other.
Awesome site, awesome humor, Oreo Ladies ROCK, Dated one for 10 years, bet relationship I ever had, way stupid of me to let it go. Keep going strong!!
I truely think noone really get what you are doing in your skits on youtube or your blogs. I seems you are trying to show people how crazy racism and racial stereotypes are. On the the other hand, if you truely feel this way, cool. To each its own.
I love your videos and the message you are trying to say but why should it be awkward to feel and say what you do,whites dont have a lock on culture,if only more people felt like you and had the guts to say what you say what a difference this world would be
You should be thankful to the creativity of the Nabisco company for creating the name “Oreo” after all could you imagine creating a web site called “The Ring Ding Experience”…..Laughs….J
You are a total stitch and you have an incredible gift. I watched several of your videos on YouTube and read some stuff here, and…I don’t care what you actually think or believe, it’s funny as hell! The humor is razor sharp and transcends race. Don’t know if you do your own video editing but that’s spot on, too. I’ll keep visiting here and watching…the best of luck in this endeavor and all you do. I hope you are doing stand-up. It’s a gift to be made to laugh…so, thank you! Peace…